The body’s offer: consistency
We might all have this wish… to act according to our values, to be reflected, intelligent, strong and resilient. To do this consistently and move towards a life embodying our integrity.
And then this.
It is so tempting… it is thrilling, in a way to follow what the orange-headed tantrum has done, again. Or the old white-head. Or what he didn’t do. Or to know about how many people died in an earthquake somewhere.
It is so annoying, so frustrating and enraging.
And so damn easy to fall into that trap, because all I need to do is follow my immediate, urgent reaction or frustration.
And there is always an immediate reaction. We can’t not react to something we hear. The more dramatic it is, the more energy it has and thus, the stronger it can affect my reaction. Especially, if there is an emotional catch, because the emotions just are – bahm, bypassing my intentions and suddenly I just feel angry, even though I really didn’t mean to.
Emotions can create urgency, and urgency as most people have probably experienced, doesn’t have time for thinking. Urgency asks for immediate action because it provokes the energy of survival.
Emotions also allow us to connect with others, through experiencing what they’re going through without having to explain or understand. We can just follow the rush of sensations and we have a sense of being with them.
We need this power, of course. We need to be able to act quickly, when something is threatening our survival. And we need to be able to connect with others and be with them… we are social beings.
What we might lose in this way of jumping from one reaction to the next, however is a sense of consistency and the ability to use our mind in it’s beautiful form of dreaming, inventing, reflecting and living with integrity.
And here is the amazing offer of the body:
No matter where we are, we are our body. It is there – we are there – in any situation. In the body we experience our emotions, it is the home of our thoughts and our medium to interact with our environment. Through breathing with have a constant exchange with our environment; through food, through touch. And with our mind we’re making sense of what we experience in our bodies.
If you’re looking for a way to make meaningful decisions, meaningful changes and find out which next step will allow you to move forward with integrity – the body is a good place to start. Here we have our memories, the physical manifestation of our values and ways of living and our ability to learn new things. All in one place – isn’t that amazing?
I encourage you to learn to notice, how it feels in your body when you’re in flow, when you know what to do next and when you enjoy. And to allow yourself to use your body as a compass, a guide when you’re in doubt.
We sometimes need time to move from quick-fix to something more sustainable. Sometimes we need help from someone else, who shows a direction we didn’t look (or sense) on our own. And sometimes we just need a moment of inquiry in a space that is safe, in order to find the next move.
But it is there. Your body is there from the first moment til the last. It has different states of being – energized, sleeping, ill, healthy, inspired, digesting, curious… but it is always your body, always you and can in this way be a reminder of who you are or where you were going, in moments when around you everything seems to be jumping and interruptive.
Your body is still there. Digesting, breathing, noticing, interpreting, thinking, loving, moving, moving, moving…
I encourage you to be curious and train to notice this paradox of an ever-changing consistent being.
Here is an exercise that helps me stay grounded and in connection with the body.
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